How often have you felt that you are running out of time? That you have to leave the business on hand incomplete, heartfelt words unsaid and fulfilling tasks undone, because you need to rush off elsewhere in an attempt to experience or accomplish something else? Most of us are accustomed to goal oriented thinking. We are trained to believe that we need to attain specific milestones, and strive in our hurry to reach them. Society and our own insecurity demands external demonstrations of worth and abilities.
Because we are disconnected with our own true nature – our own sense of wholeness and being, we knowingly or unknowingly seek completion outside. These goals can take different forms, ranging from an academic title, creative project, relationship, fame or bank balance. The more we invest our idea of self in them, the greater pressure and fear they bring upon us.
Added to this is our fundamental fear, the fear of death. As Deepak Chopra wrote in “Life After Death – The Burden of Proof”, Ramana says to Savitri, “Yet the only reason you believe that you were born is that your parents saw you emerge from the womb. They thought they witnessed the moment when you began to exist. So they spread the rumor that you were born.” Because we have bought into this illusion of limited existence, there is a constant sword hanging over our head, prodding us to race against ourselves.
What I am suggesting is something that may require introspection, assimilation and practice to inculcate. But it may be worthy of contemplation.
And if the concept resonates with you, the EFT script below can help you along the way… Tap the above script daily for a week or until you feel complete.
The following assumes that you are familiar with Emotional Freedom Techniques. You can refer to the one pager to get started and if you find it useful, you can always find more material on the net. For a more thorough understanding, you may want to get hold of my book ‘Emotional Freedom Techniques’.
Drink a glass of water and start tapping:
Karate Chop Even though I am constantly running, trying to meet my goals
Karate Chop Too little has been accomplished, too less has been proven and I am only getting old
Karate Chop I allow myself to rest a while. Take a deep breath and see, there may be a whole new way to be
Eyebrow All this running from pillar to post
Side of the eye The need to demonstrate my might
Under the eye The growing insecurity of never feeling good enough
Under the nose This constant, edgy fight
Chin All the stress, the strain, the burden of living
Collarbone As though it were some never ending race
Under the arm The pain, the struggle, the anger, the guilt
Top of the head The feeling of piling losses and failures, in my constant battle to win, save face
Karate Chop What if its time to end this story and start afresh, anew?
Karate Chop To see that there is absolutely nothing to prove, nothing I must accomplish, nothing I must do
Karate Chop That as an infinite being of unlimited potential, all that was and ever will be, I am simply here to express my being
Eyebrow What if every breath I take,
Side of the eye This whole story of ‘me’
Under the eye Is a creative expression
Under the nose Simply one facet demonstrating itself
Chin Experiencing the beauty of its own being
Collarbone Playfully diving into every moment
Under the arm In order to live it completely
Top of the head Not for reaching any fixed destination, but for the love of the journey
Karate Chop What would it be like to celebrate such freedom?
Karate Chop Anchored in my unchanging, eternal nature
Karate Chop Remembering that I am only expressing different forms temporarily?
Eyebrow What expansion would become possible?
Side of the eye What new possibilities would I see?
Under the eye Who would I become with this knowing?
Under the nose How would I live this present moment, without any obsession to seek?
Chin How much lighter would be my step? How unfettered my work and play?
Collarbone What would it take for me to remember, live and experience
Under the arm My infinite true nature, while in this joyful exploration and play
Top of the head All the while laughing at how – there is absolutely nothing I must do, nothing I must accomplish, nothing I must say; I am whole and complete, all there is and was – simply enjoying this day
Would be happy to hear your experience with this practice!
Image: Kind Courtesy Elspeth McLean (all rights reserved)