All around us, we are seeing the unveiling of secrets and the exposure of what has been suppressed or denied for years. How women have been treated was rather obvious, but is perhaps being questioned far more than it has been for decades.
Whether it be the fallout of the American political drama, the rape victims all over the world, the housewife subjugated to domestic violence/more subtle but persistent domination/humiliation, the career woman facing the glass ceiling/sexual harassment, or the sadly common threat/disrespect that every female deals with on a daily basis – it is all boiling out into the open.
While the restoration of balance between the Yang(masculine) and Yin(feminine) energies is clearly needed, how we go about trying to arrive at that also needs some thought. In the pendulum swinging away from one extreme, we often swing far too much in the opposite direction.
Hurt is best healed when it is acknowledged in our self, and witnessed in the other. Too often, it lies buried under rage, resignation, indifference or blame. Consequently, attention and aggression is directed outwards while the pain itself may remain unaddressed.
Before we try to direct a change in the outer world, it serves us to first arrive at peace within ourselves. For then, we are able to engage mindfully and appropriately with the manifest.
Women need the compassionate space to reveal and heal their ancient, individual and collective wounds. They have to learn to love, forgive and accept themselves for all they have endured, and knowingly or unknowingly invited or inflicted – on each other as well as on men.
Similarly, men too, have to be allowed a similar space to introspect, forgive themselves and allow their own gentler aspects of vulnerability, empathy, and compassion to emerge.
Those who agree that owning and addressing our inner turbulence is necessary may be struggling with the how of it. In support of them, I offer below a selection of articles that can serve in the process. Most of these are directly addressed to women, but for those who are interested, searching the blog will provide you with very many other healing scripts/poems and practices.
Additionally, meditating upon the energetically charged Yin Balancing Art and/or Mandala image below has been found impactful by many women.
The first (a digital painting) was channeled during a powerful lunar eclipse. It is intended to help with the restoration of balance between male and female energies, within us as also in the world at large. Use this image to own, strengthen, balance and express the feminine energies.
The second was an Ojo I spun chanting Ho’oponopono after a particularly brutal attack on a woman had rocked our nation. It’s soothing energies bring back a gentle strength.
Lastly, the poem below is intended to help one remember that true freedom – wherein we need not judge/suppress feminine qualities, but own them and be ourselves fearlessly. (Try tapping it in with EFT and see how you feel.)
Relevant Articles(in no particular order):
- Poems: An Elusive Love
- How To Navigate Through Significant Change
- Superwoman – Would You Be Willing To Hang Up Your Cape?
- An EFT Script For Women
- Rules of Engagement – And Breaking Them.
- Who Do You Become In Your Closest Relationships?
- What Do You Need To Unlearn Today?
- How To Dissolve A Long-Standing Grievance
- Poems: Wait No More
- How Are You Affecting Others? 16 Things You May Want To Stop Doing
- Individual Clearings and Collective Consciousness
Once there has been some honest inner clearing, you may feel ready to go beyond the confines of labels, archetypes, and genders. (I feel that is necessary before we can transcend our identification with a personality(male or female)). At which point, you could use this clearing: What Meaning Having You Given This One Thing?
The genie is out of the bottle.
Do not attempt to fit Her back in.
No more bargaining over favors:
Her freedom no longer dependent on your whims
Or her ability to meet your needs,
Blend, constrict and fit in.
You may be surprised to find
That her generosity now flows unabated
Instead of drying up.
Now that She does not have to pay
Her being as a price
She only becomes what She always was.
Like the elephant tied down by a simple peg
Amnesia and conditioning
Had had Her caged.
But just as once water remembers itself
It remains not confined, nor stagnant, nor afraid:
All limiting forms eventually fade.
Continually transforming,
Finding ways
To revisit Home, the higher skies
Yet She returns from there, again and again,
As does nurturing rain when the earth turns dry…
With the love that had always been hidden within – more clarified.
If you find any of this useful, please share the post widely with others. Let us support each other in whatever ways we can.
Serene Reflection 
As you say, the way we arrive to a particular healed state matters as much as just being healed. While the modalities you mention are great at an intellectual level, the pain of the feminine is deeply physical and actually visceral. Healing it from the mind space, or “witnessing” space is inadequate. One of the women who came to me for healing had done several years of work with GD and yet she hadn’t still resolved the deep disconnect with her own body and with her own mother. What use was the intellectual work? When she was even held in deep embrace she broke down. When she was touched, she cried. Yet when the emotion subsided she ran back into the “safe space” of the intellect. The feminine requires deep dive into the raw visceral nature of feelings that cannot be tapped out or thought out. When we feel the deep energy of the blood in our veins and womb is when the feminine, or rather all of physical creation heals. All the best for your journey. This post doesn’t resonate.
Thank you, Deepti. I do not disagree with you at all. An intellectual look is not enough. What I am offering are ways to surface the emotions, examine the thoughts and clear the energies. That is how I see it anyway. Of course, it may not land like that, and that I can accept.
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