Notes For The Highly Sensitive Empath

The test of a first-rate intelligence,” said writer F. Scott Fitzgerald, “is the ability to hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.

Those on the path of self-inquiry often grapple with reconciling concepts of nonduality(‘not-two’/advaita) with the experience of individuality. Study of various religious and philosophical texts, personal inquiry and the rare experience point to the former. But mostly, for the majority, there can be no denying our sense of individuality: Identified with our mind-body, we see ourselves as unique and different – separate from Source/God (if we believe in one), as well as from others.

Balanced, harmonious living is experienced when we remain aware of both: that while in essence there is the same, One Source – in manifestation, there are distinct forms.

For highly sensitive empaths, achieving this balance poses peculiar challenges. 
However, before expanding on those, I would like to clarify the intended audience for this post:

I hold labels lightly, and not as rigid definitions.  To clarify, this post is not for those who tend to empathize with others in the more common ways of say, feeling sad on hearing a friend’s troubles, or resonating with the outrage of a protesting crowd. Reflecting others’ feelings is natural to most.

This article is only for those who almost seem to be ‘wired’ differently.
Research has already shown that brains of HSPs are markedly different from others. There is a different sensitivity associated with activation of brain regions involved in awareness, integration of sensory information, empathy, and action planning.
The mind-body type I refer to has an unusually high sensitivity to surroundings and picks up far more information and emotion than most intuitives or Highly Sensitive Persons (HSP).  They experience an additional influx that is not limited to those physically present before them. Often, they sense, ‘see’, or ‘hear’ what is happening with other people, animals, trees, or even geographical spaces(see earth sensitives) across distances.  Unlike other empathetic responses, these cannot be explained by the theory of mirror neurons, nor by a placebo-like consequence of belief systems.

(A request: If this reminds you of someone you know, please share this article with them.)

In all probability, the intended audience of this piece would have undergone conflicting spells of loving this gift and hating its consequences; Shifted between feeling blessed, special and powerful, to feeling marked, flawed and helpless. While it is advantageous in accessing deep spiritual experiences, it also leads to some complex, tiring and confused personal equations.

Instead of seeing this extraordinary degree of empathy either as a sought-after occult power, or a desperately fought with curse, the sensible place one can arrive at is to treat it matter-of-factly:  

We are simply built differently.
Like various physical, emotional and intelligence attributes, this is just another configuration in manifestation. It makes us neither superior nor inferior.

What it does seem to do, however, is by default, have us lean towards ‘oneness’ without respecting ‘individuation’ appropriately enough.

To say this creates boundary issues would be an understatement.
Most memes (being targetted at those who’s default perception tends to come from the strongly individual perspective) encourage a movement towards dissolving barriers, expansion, and inclusivism. Cognizant of the difference in our make-up, we need to remember that such sage advice addressed to the majority may possibly be detrimental if not counter-productive for us. 

We too, need to find our middle path. But ours will be found by honoring the uniqueness and boundaries that come with individuality. Hence, what we need to learn is appropriate distancing, containing/contracting our awareness to our own personal space and focusing on our ‘self’.

Tools For Empaths offered specific tips on dealing with information and energy overload. Here, I share notes around the challenges that result from having the unique make-up of a highly sensitive empath(details below):

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  1. Stop Blaming Yourself:

    The oversensitivity, awareness, and information that you have available to you can often make things uncomfortable, inconvenient and sometimes downright annoying for yourself as well as others.  It can make you feel like an alien, a misfit and sometimes the target of unwanted attention, bullying or blame. It is not your fault. This is just the way you were built.

  2. Stop Blaming Others:

    While you may feel you are at the ‘receiving end’ of things, remember that the one you may be holding responsible is unaware of their impact on you. They are not deliberately sending stuff your way.  It’s not their fault either.

    If you feel they should be more aware, or doing more clearing work – so that you also feel better – understand that their tolerance for pain and pace of inner work will be different from yours.

  3. Let Go Of Fear and Defiance:

    When you walk around feeling guilty for the very way that you are – one tends to become either wary and submissive, or a polarized defiant. Use tools like EFT to help clear such emotions. Fighting innate qualities of this mind-body form are not going to help. Extend the same allowance and acceptance to yourself that you would extend to anyone else having a different ability/challenge from yours and find a neutral footing.

  4. Be Discerning In What You Reveal:

    Because you see something so clearly, you may forget that others may be totally oblivious to it. So calling out the underlying dynamics, energies or patterns that seem real, tangible and obvious to you can often lead to trouble and argument. The other may not even want to know more than what is apparent to them at the moment. Your inputs may be invited and appreciated at times, and intrusive and disturbing at others. Be alert to that variability.

  5. Remember, You Aren’t Always Right :

    An extraordinary track record of finding yourself to be proven right can make us neglect the occasions we got it wrong.  Like everyone else, our beliefs and state of being can cloud our seeing and judgment.

  6. You Cannot See It All:

    We can all look at the same diamond and see different facets.
    Others have a different sensing, experience and knowledge informing them and we need to respect that.  Besides, there are plenty of mysteries out there which not even the most knowledgeable or intuitive can explain.
    We need to remember that we can’t know what we don’t know.

  7. Don’t Dominate:

    You tend to feel the undercurrents more deeply than others.  This creates its own intensity and urgency, especially when you see scope for preventing something adverse.  All this can lead to unintended aggression and argument.
    Be careful that you are not imposing upon others.

  8. Be Discrete:

    Sharing our sensing/intuition/insights about a person/situation with a third party can be as careless as unwarranted gossip.

    Before you speak ask yourself if what you are going to say is true, is kind, is necessary, is helpful. If the answer is no, maybe what you are about to say should be left unsaid.” ~ Bernard Meltzer.

  9. Share Merits Of Your Inner Work And Healing Knowledge:

    Because of the acuteness with which they feel, empaths gravitate towards inner work.  Emotional clearing and clarity in thinking are their necessity more than an option.
    So apply that learning to any  energetic stuff coming your way as well. This is the time to acknowledge the Oneness and to consider whatever ‘it’ is to be an aspect of your own self and transform it as one would for self.  
    This way, you won’t blame them(it’s not their deliberate choice that you are picking up their unresolved stuff!).  Neither will you expect their co-operation, nor thanks, while yet contributing in the way you know to have worked  best for yourself.

  10. Respect Boundaries:

    Byron Katie’s wisdom is critically important to us: “I can find only three kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours and God’s. Much of our stress comes from mentally living out of our business.”

    Despite our porous boundaries, we need to stay in our own business – as much as one possibly can.

    To that end, one also has to be mindful of our own limits. We have to learn to be able to say no, be unavailable, and be willing to disappoint others – recognizing that we need our own boundaries as well. (Empaths and narcissists often find each other because of the empath’s poor ability to maintain boundaries and the inadvertent importance given to the narcissist’s business.)

  11. Respect Your Body:

    Because inputs seem to be received from beyond the five senses, the body itself may not be given its due importance.  Also, an over-emphasis on concepts of non-duality  rather than its actual experience can lead to disregarding the health of the body.
    Give the body its due care and attention.

  12. Include Yourself In The Equation:

    Self-neglect is more likely in empaths than self-centeredness.
    The healthy relationships are those which take all concerned into consideration. Remember to start with yourself.  Otherwise, you will end up feeling exhausted and resentful.

  13. Do Not Expect Others To Treat You The Way You Treat Them:

    Half the time, we don’t even realize we have any such expectations. They are usually discovered in hindsight through feelings of disappointment.  Till then, we just assume that everyone functions in the same way.

    But the inputs that they receive, their perceptions and priorities are significantly different from yours. When they don’t respond with the same involvement as you, it is not personal. They are made differently.  

  14. Spend Time Alone:

    They say we are an average of the five people we spend the most time with.  To add to this, when you are easily influenced by other energies it is easy to become disoriented, uncertain and confused as one can forget one’s own restful state.
    Know your personal space well.

  15. Engage Mindfully:

    Proximity and intimacy, whether emotional or physical, can create entanglements that are exponentially difficult to extract yourself from.
    This does not mean that you become a recluse: Simply interact with awareness and discernment.

  16. Do Not Cling To A ‘self’ Definition:

    In trying to discern our comfort zone and place others outside our field, we can end up habitually proving a fixed idea of our self.  No-one is one thing all the time.
    In the attempt to find a sensible way to navigate the world of duality, do not get so entangled with individual forms that you forget who you are in essence.

The above learnings came the slow, hard way, through years of struggle, introspection, and observation. Now, aware of all this, I feel that this way of being leads to a well-lived, intensely-felt life that can help keep one on the conscious path.

If any of this helps your journey, I would be glad.
Do let me know if it does!

 

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Related Articles:

Tools For Empaths

Are You An Earth Sensitive And Why You Need To Know

Material Wealth, Abundance, And Spirituality

 

How Are You Affecting Others? – 16 Things You May Want To Stop Doing

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Tools For Empaths’ is the most highly viewed and shared post on my blog. It seems that many of us(myself included) often feel that we are at the effect of other’s energies. However, nothing is a constant and nobody is one thing all the time. It is only fair to examine the other side of the coin and see if we may be impacting another in a less than positive manner.

For better or worse, our interactions shape each other. Energies(much like water trying to find its own level) tend to move in a way that achieves resonance and balance.  When these shifts move us to a higher vibe, we describe it as harmony and flow.  If we find ourselves moving to a more agitated state, the experience is unwelcome and off centring.  While we tend to find harmony more easily with some and feel less resonant with others, it is best not to make this personal.

Contrary to popular articles, I don’t think that a great majority are narcissists, self-centred, or ‘energy vampires’  wishing to gain strength at the cost of another. The energy drain itself may feel real but is often unconscious and usually unintentional.

Everyone has their ups and downs.  A respectful and sustainable way to support each other is through an open, transparent and synergistic way of operating.  Herein, both parties feel free to voice their needs without fear of backlash, comfortable offering wholehearted support when possible, and also uninhibited in admitting inability or disinclination to do so – if that be the case at that time.  Healthy friendships and families learn how to do this for each other. 

An ideal space is where all concerned can simply rest together, in deep acknowledgement of the presence and grace that is omnipresent.  In this state, there is no give and take, nor orchestration of balance.  We taste our true nature and know that all is effortlessly well.

However, when we are not in that space of being, it is sometimes practical to take proactive measures. In addition to energy tools, meditation,  prayers such as Ho’oponopono, practices such as heart coherence and Tonglen, it is also necessary to examine our way of communication and interaction with others.

After all, we take life far too much for granted. What if you don’t get another chance to meet this person?  How would you like your last interaction to be?

Listed below some ways in which we end up hurting others.  Are you demonstrating any of these behaviours? How much more joy, ease and harmony would become available to you and your loved ones if you stopped?

  1. Not being in touch with your own thoughts, emotions and feelings. 
    The more that you are self-aware, the less likely you are to thoughtlessly react, or project onto another.
  2. Neglecting your inner work.
    Being aware of our patterns, beliefs and trapped emotions is the first step. A constant discipline in such awareness itself helps to dissolve the same. Yet, some pro-active clearing work is usually helpful and called for, as neither denial, nor pretension can make our hurts and patterns go away. The less baggage we are carrying, the less we need or demand of others.
  3. Playing The Victim In The Blame Game.
    Making another responsible for our misery is exhausting for both. It perpetuates the perception of victimhood and will have you constantly targeting the other with anger, resentment, accusations and guilt.  Imagine fending off such silent (or blatant) onslaught and you can well imagine how draining you are being to the other person.
  4. Making The Other Responsible For Your Happiness.
    A more subtle version, this is normally harder to spot – until the other no longer delivers what we want and we shift to the ‘Blame Game’.  Here, the object of our affection is made solely responsible for our happiness.  If we have little life and love outside of what they mean to us, you can be sure its one hell of a burden to shoulder.  Again, imagine being in their shoes – one wrong move and you bring someone’s world crashing down.  It will have you rethink common notions about love, and the attachment and dependency they often imply.
  5. Continual Judgement And Criticism.
    Holding up the mirror is what good friends do for one another.  Bringing things to their awareness is helpful, but it is better received when accompanied with loving encouragement. More stick and less carrot, and all your good intentions will be forgotten by the tired other. We are hardwired with a negativity bias and without healthy doses of genuine appreciation and celebration, the receiving party often ends up remembering only what they didn’t like to hear.  The more that your opinion matters to them, the more it will weigh them down.
  6. Not Listening.
    Few of us know how to listen deeply.  We are usually busy formulating defence or attack in our head, paying little attention to the non-verbal cues and underlying energies. We may also have our minds already made up and can’t be bothered with the facts. It doesn’t matter who does this first. When we stop listening, differences only escalate.
  7. Being Insensitive To Another’s Vulnerability
    A corollary to inattention is missing the other’s vulnerability, especially whilst revealing their authenticity, regrets or fears. If you are not present to their vulnerability, you eventually lose their trust.
  8. Unexplained Silence and Disengagement.
    A favourite habit of those prone to passive aggression, or playing the Aloof in the Interrogator-Aloof drama, this one can be particularly damaging to any relationship.  The one at the receiving end runs through endless scenarios and emotions in attempting to understand what is happening.  Your lack of communication can leave them thoroughly lost and drained.  If you feel unable or unready to communicate, at least let them know that you need some time out. It is an indication that you wish to build, not break down bridges.
  9. Revisiting History Repeatedly.
    If you tend to replay the same story again and again, whether your own, or any other complaint, it can be quite taxing for the other to remain patient and tolerant. Do the work required to free yourself from the past.
  10. Disallowing Space and Silence.
    This is true especially if you are dealing with an introvert or Highly Sensitive Person.  Silence and space are rejuvenating in small doses for almost everyone, and more so to such people.  Practise a few minutes of sitting together in silence and see how much it benefits your interactions.
  11. Manipulations, Deceit and Secrets.
    Our energies speak louder than our words. When we indulge in any form of deception, others tend to intuitively respond to the underlying truth.
  12. Violence.
    Suppressed emotions tend to erupt at the most inappropriate time and in the most inappropriate manner.  A repeating pattern of physical or verbal abuse is unacceptable for obvious reasons.  Even minor incidences take their toll, with the other living in anxious anticipation of an escalation.  Work on your anger management.  Learn to respond to your own stressors differently.
  13. Needing To Be Right All The Time.
    Variations include the need to have the last world, to be superior, to be smarter, and so forth.  You don’t have to come out being top dog all the time.  Defence and attack are a waste of energy. Complete alignment of perspective on all matters is an unrealistic expectation. Agree to disagree, when so required.
  14. Being The Uncrowned Martyr.
    Believe it or not, your constant rescuing, serving, mentoring, sacrificing, or whatever other ‘selfless’ behaviour you think you are demonstrating, can leave the other feeling guilty, inferior worthless, overwhelmed and even resentful. Remember that the other is made of the same essence and is as capable and self-sufficient as you.
  15. Enforcing Love.
    Quite an oxymoron.  For here, one person is demanding the demonstration of caring while the other feels imprisoned by expectations.  Love has to flow of its own volition, it cannot be insisted upon. Know and accept that there are times to peacefully part ways.  Ebb and flow is natural in life.
  16. Withholding Love.
    By far the most punishing of all, withholding love is deeply hurtful to all concerned. When we wall ourselves in and others out, we are fighting against our very own essence.  Recovering from such energetic disconnection can be a long, painful process.  Whenever possible, to whatever extent possible, in whatever manner possible, allow love and appreciation. (Sending good energies, love and prayers are all valid and sometimes the only possible ways.)

It takes a strong intent and self-discipline to change our deep-rooted habits.  While learning and evolving seem to be a life long journey (at least for me), we need never procrastinate as to how we choose to be in this moment

For myself, if I am a little more conscious and kinder than I was yesterday, I consider myself headed in the right direction. So if you have any suggestions to add, please leave them in the comments below. And if you like any of the above, please share with others.

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Are You An Earth Sensitive? and Why You Need to Know

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It takes only about 5 minutes of news to make the most resilient of us feel exhausted and dismayed.  Current world events, weather disruptions and mishaps seem to be growing in frequency and scale.  While some articles describing the traits of Empaths and Highly Sensitive Persons have been doing the rounds, there is relatively less information available for Earth Sensitives.  For them, the current times can be overwhelming.  Even more so, if you do not even realize what is happening with you and why.

To me, labels have their limitations and I use all these terms more as pointers rather  than rigorous classifications.  My intent here is to provide some practical, useful  checklists for those who may have been seeking such support. I myself fit the descriptions of an Empath, HSP as well as an Earth Sensitive.

Previously, I have shared several Tools For Empaths.  I strongly recommend referring to that comprehensive article as well.  Here, I focus on those perceiving changes in the earth energies, weather, solar storms, water pollution and the like through emotions and sensations in their own body. Have you had any of the following symptoms for which there seems to be no apparent medical reason?

  1. Disturbed sleep patterns
  2. Restlessness
  3. Acute episodes of anxiety
  4. Inexplicable periods of fatigue
  5. Inexplicable and compelling need to rest or sleep
  6. Oversensitivity to loud noises or changes in temperature
  7. Sudden and acute feeling of heat or cold in the body
  8. Tingling of extremities
  9. Dizziness
  10. Sudden pain in particular body parts (often the lower back)
  11. Need to withdraw and go silent
  12. Yearning to connect more deeply with nature

This is not an exhaustive list as each one of us tends to experience different sensations.  But it does work as a pointer.  If you are an Earth Sensitive, in all probability, just reading this broad description of symptoms will trigger the knowing within you.  You can validate this for yourself by paying more attention to the timing, intensity, coming and going of these symptoms.

For many years now, because I know that my body is giving me an awareness of an earth event, when I experience any of my own symptoms, I look up earthquakes, volcanic eruptions, major weather events, solar weather and large scale disasters.   I include man-made disasters(accidents, acts of terror, war, etc.) in the scope of Earth Sensitives (and not just empaths) as these in fact hurt Gaia.  Now I can usually tell which of these is the trigger and roughly where it has happened before I find the news article.  I have tested this long enough to satisfy the skeptic in myself.  But it took a long while to understand, accept and address what is happening peacefully. So if you feel you are an Earth Sensitive too, here are my suggestions for self care:

  1. Learn to trust yourself:  Everyone who has a knowing is actually quite clear about it.  It is the mind that tells us all kind of doubting stories.
  2. Learn to discern: This is not in contradiction to the first.  It is a corollary.  You will experience sensations that are your own, other people’s and also the earth’s.  By being more mindful and open to the answer you receive, instead of judging and dismissing your intuition, you will build upon your ability to discern accurately. Access Consciousness offers some nice tools to help with this.  You can ask the following questions:
    1. Who does this belong to?
    2. Is it earth or someone else?
    3. What can I do with it? (*more on this later)

    Truth makes one feel lighter and more expansive while false answers make one feel heavy or constricted.

  3. Ensure you get frequent and regular earthing: The health benefits of earthing are significant for everyone but are especially important for earth sensitives.  Walking barefeet on earth, grass or the beach will help ground much of the energy.
  4. Ensure proper hydration: You are processing vast amount of energies and drinking adequate water is important.  Too many of us do not realize when we are dehydrated.
  5. Use Energy Balancing techniques: You can avail of any of the numerous tips provided in Tools For Empaths.  In addition, there are a few simple energy exercises that can be helpful.   Some of these are:
  6. Soothing music: Solfeggio frequencies or brain entrainment embedded music can be particularly helpful.  However, there is no rule.  Any music you are drawn to helps.
  7. Artistic Expression of all kinds is especially helpful when you feel a strong download of energy and it needs to be grounded(manifested) into the physical world.

Personal experience tells me that pretending the symptoms away does not work, neither does neglecting the information we are thus receiving. Which brings me to the promise of the title and the intent behind this post:

Why do you need to know if you are an Earth Sensitive?
You need to know, now, more than ever – because the Earth is calling for your support. 

The changes that the planet and the collective are going through are showing up through the extreme situations we witness globally today, as well as in our personal lives.  We have a part to play in this drama.  We can choose to ignore our knowing, play helpless victims suffering the experience, or choose differently:   We can honor our gifts by meeting the urgent need for loving attention from the planet.  We can do this by proactively supporting the processing of the energies in a way that benefits us all.

All the violence that we have inflicted on each other, on other beings and on the elements themselves has led to disrupted energies and trapped emotions in many places, as well as in ourselves.  Like cellular memories in individuals, these ‘memories’ tend to replay again and again.  No wonder we say ‘history repeats itself’.

Water plays a significant part in all this.  Just as our bodies are 70%-80% water, the planet also has a substantial component of water.  If you are not familiar with Masaru Emoto’s work, do have a look at the photographs of water crystals before and after prayers, to see the physical impact of both our neglect and loving attention.

While many healers, meditators and those convinced of the tangible benefits of practices such as TM and heart coherence have been actively working on releasing and balancing these energies in individuals, I believe that there is an equal need to focus our attention and intention on spaces and elements as well. 

Once you feel more balanced with some self care, and if you would like to contribute towards healing the earth, here are some ways:

  1. Follow Your Inner Guidance: To act on what you know is perhaps the most challenging part.  Because you may feel called to do things or be at places for which you can offer no rational explanation.  And sometimes, you may feel like you should be focusing your attention on an earth event, but you may be guided to ‘mind your own business’.  There almost seems to be an ‘assignment’ of events and the useful thing seems to be to address what you are ‘told’ to and not invite any more (or less).  I have been following guidance to go to certain places and do clearings, or activate energy grids.  But a great many hours have also gone in remote practice. You never know what to expect.  All I can say is that not listening worsens my symptoms, while honoring the guidance has led me to some amazing, awe-inspiring, synchronistic experiences that have totally validated my choices.
  1. Strengthen Your Trust: For me, the lesson in trust had to be learned before I received the assurance of validation.  For many years, there were self doubts (after all, in my other avatar I write stories!) and practically no way to establish if I was making any contribution.  But as the mind has quietened, the knowing has grown more certain and the trust is more constant.
  1. One Step At A Time: Frequently, the information and energies downloaded unfold through gradual revelations.  For example, you may feel drawn to a particular location without knowing why, until you get there.  It’s almost like a patient treasure-hunt.  Follow the clues and cues.
  1. Use Healing Techniques:  If you are familiar with any energy healing practices – apply those techniques to spaces, land parcels, water bodies, etc. Most of these can be done remotely, or at the location.  Many of them are easy to learn:
    1. Reiki, light or similar energy can be specifically directed towards these with the intention of clearing and healing.
    2. Join the Global Coherence Initiative that uses Heart Math techniques.
    3. Emotional Freedom Techniques(EFT) can be used for specific clearings. Eg. Videos from Brad Yates for the Oceans and Rainforest.
    4. NOW Healing – Elma Mayer shares a video for healing Urban Waterways.
    5. Emotion Code can be used to release trapped emotions in a land or site.
    6. Access Tools – Numerous questions and clearing statement for contributing to the earth are available. You can google for these.
    7. One particularly easy tool from Access is to say “Whatever the earth wants of me, I contribute now.” and shake both hands out vigorously (towards the earth) three times saying “1,2,3”.
    8. Those familiar with entity clearing can deliberately approach sites of conflict, deep rooted history, or where intuitively drawn and work to release these.
    9. Work with trees. This can be done intuitively.  For a detailed writeup click here.
    10. The Agnihotra practice is reportedly very beneficial for the environment. Learn more about it and see if it appeals to you.
    11. Ho’oponopono: The ancient Hawaain practice of taking 100% responsibility for the world you perceive and continuous repetition of the prayer “I am sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.”  ‘cleans the memories’ .  (For almost a year now, I have made it a discipline to repeat this prayer every time I use water – whether it be to drink, wash, or water the plants!  I deliberately shared this with a handful of friends, to ensure that I remain mindful in my practice and rarely do I lapse now. Sharing such a commitment  with others can be helpful in maintaining a practice.)
    12. Download the free New Vibes symbols from my site and charge your drinking water with these.
  1. Be Present: The bottom line is that if we are present, empty and available, what needs to happen, happens effortlessly.  So while the previous list is the more active or yang way to contribute, the yin way is simple (but most often requires a practice):
  • Wherever you are, become quiet and still.
  • If you are working on a remote location, take your attention there.
  • Notice the underlying presence.
  • Energies may move through you or you may feel deep stillness.  Either is fine.
  • Stay in awareness for as long as you feel called to.

Despite any chaos, whether current or historical, there is underlying grace waiting to be brought forth.  Be the one to see it and bring it alive.  As ACIM says, “It is impossible to see two worlds.”(more on that in another post).  I have found that earth grid activations and connections tend to happen spontaneously through us in this manner.  You may feel called to tend to these locations subsequently, by repeating similar follow-up sessions.

To conclude, I have focused on energy and awareness here, but this in no way takes away from the option of actions such as mindful consumption of resources, physically cleaning up spaces or actively participating in activities of organizations working towards a greener, more peaceful earth.

For those who have made it to the very end of this long article – I thank you for your time and patience!  Do let me know if you find this article useful or interesting, and please do pass it on to others as well.

The Earth needs all of us to be more aware and participative right now.  Please help in making that possible!

 

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Tools for Empaths

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The requests for guidance with managing waves of emotions and sometimes inexplicable overwhelm have been rising in recent times.  Energetically sensitive people feel affected by the collective energies and with all the calamities and changes in the collective and at individual levels, there is often turbulence in the air.  I have been sharing these tips in private and decided to share them here for the benefit of those who are looking for this material.

I understand that some of this may make no sense to a large amount of the population and may also provoke my Advaita – inclined friends to remind me of the value of ‘not doing’ and being.  I hold argument with neither and will not be responding to any comments along this line. I believe the most pragmatic thing possible is to be honest about where you are located on your spiritual journey.  So if you need a float to help when you feel you are drowning – so be it.  Once you remember you always knew how to swim – you can drop them.  Until then, do what is needed in the moment to stay afloat. It may seem like a lot to do, but it gets effortless with little practice.  The relief is so palpable, that it is worth cultivating the habits that resonate.

Once one is more consistently centered in oneness, the idea of separation, threat and defense are irrelevant and slipping into our ‘home space’, or rather out of the maya – results in more frequent states of calming harmony.  The longer term intention of moving into that awareness with regular meditations and inner work is recommended.  Love is all there is and that is all that is really ever required.  So anything that brings you to seeing and living from the heart is a practice that will benefit. Remember that love and fear cannot co-exist. But until you get into the swing of things, here are some useful options:

1.  Violet flame/Golden sphere visualization for protecting and holding your own space.  Advised before stepping into meetings and crowded spaces.

2.  Whenever you have a shower, intend that your aura is being cleansed of all foreign and negative energies as well.

3.  If possible, once in a while draw a bath or use a bucket – with a cupful of unrefined sea salt.

4.  Earthing is an excellent way to drain off stuff – barefeet  on sand/earth/sea.

5. Smudging with sage/dhoop, ringing bells, Mahamrutunjaya mantra playing in the background, or other healing music all help maintain a cleaner space.

6.  Declutter.  Clutter distracts.  Be careful of old stuff and things you bring into your space.

7.  Whenever an addictive urge comes up, run all the tests below and avoid succumbing to numbing distractions.  The short term relief comes at a heavy, long term cost.  Try to remain in awareness.  Emotional Freedom Techniques can be used to address cravings.

8.  Cut cords with anyone you suspect you have entanglements with, as soon as you can.

9.  You can call on a favourite angel, or ascended Master to help with clearing or keeping your space clean.   Archangel Michael, Christ, Dhwaj Kwal and Wyamoos, are particularly helpful in this area.

10.  Crystals like Smoky Quartz, Black Agate and Black Tourmaline are helpful.  Wash and clean regularly if used.

11.  Regular time in nature, with animals and alone.  Not only refreshes but also anchors in the awareness of your own ‘clean space’ and helps you notice when you pick up and need to clean.

12.  Whirling, Dance, Music, Exercise all help to move energies and keep them from stagnating.  Also helps undo any depression or fatigue.  

To be learned and practiced over the long term:

1.  Awareness is the key.  Center yourself and be fully present – claim your space.  Reconnect to source.

2.  Learn to tune in to the body and LISTEN to it.  You can use muscle testing, breath or simply notice if you are feeling light or heavy, expanded or tight.  Learn to notice anything that triggers you, whether it be a space, substance or person, and avoid if possible.  Don’t try to rationalize it.  You can’t take care of another if you are not taking care of yourself first.  If you choose to be around them, make sure you are connected to source.

3.  At the first sign of discomfort ask “Who does this belong to?” several times.  If it makes you feel lighter or saying “This is not mine” makes you feel lighter, than simply request it return to sender with elevated consciousness. (This is an Access Consciousness tool.)

4. If triggered, ask “Is there an entity?” and “Is there an astral entity?”  If yes, command to go to light.  If that doesn’t work, ask what they want and negotiate a solution.  Emotions are the bridge that connects – so clear any trapped emotions you become aware of with EFT or by holding the intention and running fingers from nose, over the head  to top of spine three times.  For those interested, recommend study and use of Emotion Code for finding and releasing trapped emotions. Overwhelm is one of the most common Trapped Emotions for empaths and you can always start with clearing that one.

5.  Other possibilities are resonance and inherited emotions.  Again, EFT, Emotion Code, or the Access Clearing Statement can be used to release any such emotions you find with muscle testing or dowsing.

6.  Work on clearing self of trapped emotions and fixed points of views.  These are the bridges – the hooks in us.  The less we have of these, the less chances of someone else’s stuff finding our frequency or attaching to us, as there is limited commonality.  So healing old wounds, letting go of judgments and rigid stances is actually important and useful, requiring ongoing consistent practice.

7. NOW Healing  The mid-line running from lower root chakra through the center and all the way up and above the crown chakra is like the controlling energy centre where you can “enter commands” by sweeping attention up this mid-line and making the statements.  Useful commands:

a.  ALIGN with Wholeness NOW. Or Reconnect with Source NOW.

b. ALIGN to own energies NOW

c.  Bring up all the information, emotion, energy, contributors, entities, etc… to be cleared in the field by intention and then run the command “DISENTANGLE NOW”.

d.  REPAIR Energy Field NOW

e.  REINTEGRATE  NOW

You can repeat any of the above (with sweep of attention up the center) as often as required till you feel done.

We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.~ Dalai Lama

I hope and intend that some of the above suggestions will help a few readers find their inner peace, despite any outer storms. (If you find any of the above useful, please do share it with others.  Thank you.)

Related Links

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