How To Release Negative Anticipation And Relax.

A difficult life can gradually cultivate an anxious expectation or negative anticipation in the mind and body. While resistance is the primary cause of our suffering, dread only adds to and perpetuates our stress. 

In 16 Clearing Statements To Address The Self-Sabotage of Inevitabilitywe looked at the belief systems underlying an anticipated difficulty, as also their consequences. There was a tacit acknowledgement there that our thinking was coming in our own way and the tools suggested there were a means to solve a specific, clearly identified  and problematic belief.

Here I would like to focus on a more generalised habit that we may have acquired: A readiness for suffering that is far more deeply ingrained, often unconscious and is likely fuelled by countless experiences and multiple reasons.

How to recognise whether you are affected by it:

  • Observe the body:
    Sit silently, undisturbed for a few moments.  Breathe easily.  Pay attention to your breathing and your body.  You may notice a stiffness in the spine, shoulders or at the back of the neck, a tightness in the muscles, or shallow, fast breathing.  Those who have dealt with a lot of challenging situations and traumas(big or small) may feel such symptoms more strongly. Once it is noticed, you realise that it feels as though the mind -body is bracing itself against an unfathomable, approaching storm.
    (You can test this further by allowing your thoughts to float towards a future time or upcoming event. Your mood may dampen, and overall a sense of effort or heaviness may show up for no particular reason. The stiffness, tightness or pain may aggravate. Any of this could be mild, or acute.)
  • Observe your thoughts and emotions:
    There is a fear of being disappointed, worry and a tendency to imagine all that can go wrong rather than what can go right. Despite positive thinking or manifestation exercises, you may be a persistent, nagging doubt that cautions you not to get too hopeful or invested. It may also show up as an underlying current of fatigue, helplessness or sadness. Life seems more uphill than not.

It is as though a ‘fight or flight’ response is no longer situational, but has become a default state. Our mind-body has got locked into a preparedness for battle.

How to release such dread:
Becoming aware of this anxiety and tension in the mind and body is the first step.  This, in itself, starts shifting our energies and thoughts. Along with a mindful watch on our recurring thoughts, addressing this in the body is also important.
We can further the process by pairing our conscious intent to release this negative anticipation with one or more of these simple options:

  • Heart Focus: Sit straight and take your attention to your heart and breath. Imagine as though you are breathing in and out of the heart.  As you breathe mindfully,  do any one or all of the following:
    • Inhale deeply and intend, “I release all resistance to whatever is unfolding.” as you exhale completely. Repeat until you feel relaxed.
    • Place both hands over your heart and say, “It’s okay to feel this way.” (3-5 times).  After that repeat, “It’s okay to let it go now.” (3-5 times)
    • Place both hands over your heart and repeat softly and slowly, “I am safe. I am okay. It is safe to relax now.”(3-7 times)
    • Focus your thoughts on anyone or anything that invokes love or appreciation in you.  Continue these till you feel yourself relax completely.
  • Shift Your Position: Notice which part of the body feels tight/tense and move it slightly to a position that is more comfortable.  It’s surprising how much energy goes into holding that tightness and the ease that can show up with such conscious movements. If you are the type that tends to get lost in thought or the activity on hand, make such 5-second breaks a regular habit.
  • Stretch The Body: Basic stretching exercises combined with the intention of emotional release affect not only the body but also the mind, emotions and energies.  Meridian stretches and Surya Namaskars are particularly effective.
  • Psoas Muscle Clearing:  Lie down on your back with knees bent and feet about a foot and half apart. Let the knees fall together lightly and comfortably.  Place your palms flat on the two sides of your abdomen, just off the centre of your body.  Your hands will be roughly parallel to the line joining the thighs and abdomen, as though cupping the abdomen area. Now hold the intention of releasing the pent up emotion you have identified.  You may begin to notice energy moving below your palms.  If heaviness shows up anywhere else, stay in the same position, but move your attention to the disturbed part of the body.  Now imagine a grounding cord running down from the base of your spine and another from the soles of your feet to deep down in the centre of the earth.  Imagine that everything that needs to leave you is passing out through these cords.Repeat as often as you feel the need.
    (I have combined several approaches into the above exercise and most people I have shared it with find it to be particularly powerful. I highly recommend it as a daily practice.)
  • Energy Exercise: Cross your arms into the Cooks hook-up, and follow these commands: “Feel it strongly as you can, as clearly as you can, until you just can’t feel it anymore.” Repeat 2-3 times, until you feel calm.
  • Visualisation:  Imagine golden white light flowing down through the top of your head and filling the entire body. Intend that it clear out all distressing cellular memories and replace them with a soothing calm.  Take your time as you scan through the body, ‘lighting up’ any areas of heaviness or darkness.  See this light flowing down, out from the soles of your feet, deep to the centre of the earth.

Any and all of the above can move you from an apprehensive tension to feeling easeful and refreshed instead – within minutes.

For additional help, here are some relevant posts:

PS: In the event that you are facing a full-blown panic/anxiety attack, try one of these:

  • Hold your breath: Hyperventilation implies you are taking in too much oxygen without releasing adequately. Hold your breath for a period of ten to fifteen seconds, relax and repeat this a few times. You could also cover your nose and mouth with a paper bag and breathe in and out of it for a few minutes. This restores the oxygen-carbon dioxide balance in the lungs.
  • Deep Diaphragmatic breathing: Slow, deep breathing right down to the bottom of the lungs, such that you feel your abdomen rise up noticeably. Breathe through the nose, with a longer out-breath than in-breath. (Count in your mind to 7 as you breathe in and to 11 as you breathe out). 
  • Emotional Freedom Techniques/EFT is excellent for calming the system down.  Learn more at my website or get my book: Emotional Freedom Techniques.
  • Mathematical Exercises: I have seen this work remarkably well.  It shifts attention away from the stressor and activates a different part of the brain. Try solving for the square root of a large number or multiplying large figures.

I trust that one or more of the above will help alleviate your stress and bring in more peace and clarity.

If you find any of the above useful, please do share it forward.  
We live in taxing times and most of us could benefit from a little relaxation.

Updated on December 8th, 2016:

Came across a few interesting 60-second suggestions for deep relaxation in a talk – ‘NeuroWisdom 101‘, by Mark Walden. Adding some of those below:

  • Begin yawning deliberately and slowly stretching your body.  Whatever speed you are stretching at, keep halving that until you are moving as slowly as possible.  There is a growing awareness of each muscle movement, while the ‘fake’ yawning begins to induce genuine yawns.  These give the brain opportunity to pause its thoughts and rest.  Within 60 seconds, one can feel the growing relaxation of mind and body.
  • Run your fingertips slowly down the inside of your other palm, taking 20 seconds to go from the fingertips to the wrist.  MRI scans indicated that this stimulates parts of the brain that deal with self-awareness and self-confidence. You can use this to calm yourself before meetings you are worrying about.
  • When feeling down, worried or moody, stroking the forearm slowly helps shut down negative emotional centres in the brain.
  • Concentrate as strongly as you can on the sound of a bell for 30 seconds. Listen as deeply as you can to whatever you hear.  Such intense concentrating shuts down a large part of the brain and hence, this kind of focus is an excellent strategy to manage ADD, procrastination and the wandering mind.

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Key Lies in Seeing The Root of Things

Based upon case experience, I am suggesting below a model of inquiry that may help you realize and release core limiting beliefs about yourself.

Consider this:

As a child you were promised an outing by your cousin. But at the last minute you were told it is cancelled.  You feel let down and disappointed, sorry you believed in the promise in the first place.  This happens a few times more and because the excited, happy anticipation was replaced with equally strong, crushing disappointment, you begin to question yourself.  You begin to regret having trusted your cousin, wonder why you ever believed him/her and conclude that you are naive and foolish, a poor judge of character.  As you grow older, your cynicism makes it difficult for you to believe in others and form trusting relationships.  The few places where you do connect give you great hope and much needed assurance, but only for a short while.  Sooner or later, promises are broken and you end up feeling let down again.  Even more convinced in your lack of judgement, regretting having trusted the other person at all.  You vow once more, never to trust anyone else.

Can you relate to any of this?  The triggering events, resultant emotions and conclusions may differ for each of us.  But this pattern is not uncommon.

A significant event/repetitive events happen and we have certain thoughts and experience strong feelings about it. Based upon this, we arrive at a conclusion. We interpret it to mean something about our self. This process may be conscious or subconscious, but the end result is a limiting belief. Once this has been ingrained, the mind works overtime to record, capture and highlight data and experience that validates this belief.

We then go on to divide the people we meet into two types:

  • Those who reinforce the wound for us and validate the belief.
  • Those who don’t.  Those who don’t fit the role, provoke two reactions in us:
    • Either they are treated with doubt and fear, because a part of us is constantly afraid that these exceptions will also (eventually) fit our other, ‘more consistent’ experiences of the other kind.
    • Or we are so eager and hungry for what they mean to us, that we end up acting needy, clinging or dependent.

Mistrust, fear and neediness are all unhealthy and eventually take their toll on the relationship.  Consequent deterioration in the rapport will lead us back to the original conclusion, once again reinforcing the limiting belief we started with. The stronger the belief, the more such engagements we attract and the more we reinforce the loop.

This external drama keeps our attention on other people and outward events.  In all the pain, blame, bitterness and victimization, we miss the underlying point of origin – the beliefs we have about our self and the role we are playing in all this.

  1. What is required is some introspection, to discover the core limiting belief and to clear it. The limiting belief about your self will be the perfect match to the challenge you routinely encounter.  For example, if it is betrayal that haunts you, the belief could be ‘I am a poor judge of character’, or ‘ I am naive/gullible’. If you keep facing rejection, it could be ‘I am unworthy of love’ or ‘I am not desirable’.
  2.  Once discovered, question this belief – ask yourself, ‘Is it really true’?
  3. Write at least 10 instances of when you demonstrated otherwise, or met people who did not match this expectation.  They will exist, but you would not have given them too much attention because they did not match the belief you were carrying at that time.
  4. After having understood the bias in your perceptions, you can now clear any hold this belief has on you, along with any emotional charge using TAT, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) or Emotion Code. These energy tools provide us with effective ways to clear whatever is no longer required.

Suggested EFT statements:
“Even though I have long believed that I am <naive/gullible >, I release this belief, all associated cellular memories, auric imprints and future programs now.”
(Auric imprints refers to energetic baggage and future programs refers to projections based on beliefs held in the past)

“Even though I have neglected to notice when I was <discerning/realistic>, I acknowledge and integrate those parts of me now.”

(Download a one-pager on EFT here)

What appears to be a complex manifestation may have a very simple, singular root.

With patience, it is possible to unpeel the layers and clear the issue from its very roots.

If you find this useful, please do share it with others.

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Rules of Engagement – And Breaking Them.


Elie Wiesel was right when he said, “The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.”

More than the anger, criticism and tantrums, what can really hurt us to the core is disengagement.  The cold wall that blocks any and all interaction can leave one feeling betrayed and abandoned.  No wonder then that many close relationships get stuck in patterns of angry tantrums or violent exchanges.  Though it is unlikely that anyone would consciously prefer constant argument or abuse, what it does achieve is some form of engagement.  Any distance may feel risky, as there may be a conscious or unconscious fear of either losing the person or the relationship undergoing a fundamental, significant change.  Though space and time may bring a sensible pause to reflect and re-evaluate behaviors,  it is not given a fair chance.

However exhausting and frustrating the engagement, in a convoluted way, both parties are unwilling for separation.   While the two people are tied up in these verbal, emotional, physical or energetic cords, there can remain alive a secret hope of resolution.  A connection, no matter how unhealthy or self sabotaging it may be.

The truth is that emotions often drive us to behave in irrational ways.

Until we stop to examine our patterns.  And decide to break the unsaid rules we have mutually agreed to.  There are more harmonious ways to interact and if all possibility of a mutually respectful interaction is lost, then it is time to rewrite this story.

Such situations are often distinguishable by the demonstrations of ‘control dramas’ as described by James Redfield in ‘The Celestine Vision’ (see extract).   To expand in the above context, imagine a real life situation to be a drama and see how the characters are trapped into playing roles. Typically, these play out in pairs, two of the more common role-play combinations being ‘Interrogator’- ‘Aloof’ and ‘Intimidator’- ‘Poor me’.

The ‘Interrogator’ will keep asking questions, in order to elicit conversation.  Over a period of time, this evokes the ‘Aloof’ response, where the one questioned consistently refuses to reply, is evasive or answers in monosyllables. Imagine the typical scenario of a parent questioning the late returning adolescent. This response builds the frustration levels in the parent and he/she tend to escalate angry inquiries. The pattern only keeps worsening over time, creating a rift in the relationship.  Or the wife who feels her husband does not give her enough time.  As she continues to make demands, ask for explanations to whereabouts, so on and so forth, the resentment only aggravates aversion and disinterest in the husband.

The ‘Intimidator’ tends to be the aggressive, loud, person who dominates the interaction.  Typically, the ‘Poor me’ continues to simmer in unvoiced disagreement and self pity, convinced that there is no other way for things to be.  Where the person playing ‘Poor me’ is in a more dependent and needy position, things can go to an extreme, as there will be complete reluctance to let go of the other person, no matter what the cost.

Beyond a point, no one is really happy with this way of relating.  However, by then, the pattern is so well hidden and the roles so imbibed, that stepping out of the chaos and a return to harmony will require a great deal of awareness and unlearning.

If you find that any of the above is relevant to a particular relationship, or to a particular kind of relationship (such as with a partner, or authority figure, or males, or females, etc…), you may want to incorporate some changes.  EFT is immensely useful  in clearing the emotional baggage, releasing negative habits and limiting beliefs.

What is required is your willingness to taking responsibility for your reactions and a commitment to modifying the same through greater awareness.

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The ‘New Beginnings’ Daily Meditation – Available for Download Now!

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Stress, overwhelm, exhaustion, helplessness and hopelessness – all shut us down and close us off to new possibilities.  We feel stuck in this state and nothing seems to help.  This 15 minutes guided meditation has been designed to shift you out of such a state.  It helps you return to a harmonious, balanced space, where one is open and receptive to miraculous changes.   

GD and I prepared this track for a revolutionary program at Mastek   last year.  Not only were the words chosen with care, but several layers of subliminal clearings and energetic transmissions are embedded in the track.  Though the voice is GD’s alone, those familiar and sensitive to energies will notice my presence as well.

The meditation has received wonderful feedback and instead of the originally suggested 21 days, many of the employees continue to practise the meditation even now.  It’s been well over a year, but testimonials to its benefits continue to come in on a regular basis.

In these times of rapidly shifting energies and the numerous, severe challenges that many are dealing with, GD and I strongly felt that we should make the audio available freely to a wider audience.

So we invite you to download the free audio here.  You are welcome to share it with others.  In fact, we would encourage you to do so.

(Recommended listening:  At least once, every morning.  Preferably twice a day.)

Please do share your feedback with us. It would be greatly appreciated 🙂

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Winning Strategies to Loss Accumulators

Right from an early age, we all find ways and means to cope with the challenges that life brings our way.  Knowingly or unknowingly, we experiment with different responses until we find what seems to work for us.  So a child seeking his parent’s attention may learn that throwing a tantrum often obtains the desired result.  Or loud, accusatory complaining may generate so much guilt that the parent  indulges every demand and the child never has to face refusal.

These learned ways need not be noticed or consciously chosen.  Quite frequently, they are conclusions drawn by the subconscious and become the fallback response during difficult times.  A good way to discover your favorite strategy  is to identify a habitual response to stress.

Do you resort to aggression?  Or do you become the ice queen who demonstrates no weakness?  Perhaps you resort to a ‘poor me’, helpless mode, that encourages or forces others to handle things for you?

While the disadvantages of such strategies may be more easily evident, there are others which are far more subtle and well disguised.  These are harder to catch and even tougher to release.  These are what I call the plum ‘Winning Strategies’.  They have served us extraordinarily well. These auto-responses form an integral part of our behavior patterns because they got us  through difficult times, or accelerated our growth.  Perhaps even enhanced our abilities in some significant way.  Not only are they deeply ingrained, we are very attached to them and will find ways and means of defending, justifying or insisting upon their usefulness.  A part of us is grateful and proud to have developed them.  They are typically hard to let go off.

So a child from a broken home may have developed great independence and confidence in his own abilities.  Which works wonders for him and helps him to get through the emotional chaos in his young life.  However, as an adult, he may now have difficulty in engaging with others, trusting them or forming intimate bonds.

Or consider the young female who loses her father at an early age and learns to become the assertive leader in the family.  She matures quickly, handles crises, goes on to become the bread winner.  But even several years later, she is unable to believe that there is any nourishment or support available to her from anyone else. She feels lonely, burdened and unsupported.  Yet, she is unable to relax, as not allowing herself rest or not looking to another for support worked well for her in the past.

At some point, the Winning Strategy starts becoming a limitation.  A reaction based on historical experience with no allowance or recognition of revised personality and circumstances.  What was once your greatest strength is now being used beyond its expiry date.

In itself, it may be a strengthening or useful habit.

But in the new context, it may be completely inappropriate and perhaps even damaging.

Instead of supporting you, it may now be misleading you.  Self sabotage at its subtlest best.

Everything comes with an expiry date.

Check to see if your Winning Strategy has outlived it’s time and purpose and you need to let it go now.

Busy as a Bee?

Ever noticed the subtle, secret satisfaction derived in complaining, “I am just too busy to do that right now!“?

Here, ‘that’ can refer to anything from having fun, taking care of your self, spending quality time with loved ones, learning anything new … or just about anything under the sun.  We get locked into patterns of buzzed routines and may not notice when the exhaustion is accompanied with a certain satisfaction.  Before you can admit to any addiction to busyness, perhaps the following need to be noted:

  • Most of us are conditioned to believe that ‘An idle mind is the devil’s workshop‘.  Right from childhood, the values of hard work and staying occupied are valued, while quiet time, reflection and spaciousness are labelled ‘lazy, non-productive’ and so on.
  • Busyness feeds a story of self-importance.  Its easy to ignore how much is being accomplished (or not), the quality of it and whether it is in alignment with your aspired values and priorities, when one is running on the treadmill.  Like a hamster on the wheel, you keep running to stay in the same place, but now there is a belief that you are ‘doing something’.
  • Busyness is associated with success and achievement. Ironically, the most accomplished people are more often than not, in complete cognition of the leverage that comes from inner balance.
  • We forget that Non-action is an option.  Not everything needs to be addressed.  Our impulse to ‘fix’ things in a hurry does not allow for time and space to evaluate the situation objectively.  Sometimes, more can be done by doing less or nothing.  Rushing into action may result in more to deal with than before.  As Lao Tzu said: “Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.”

There are also some advantages that arise from adopting Busyness.  They serve our conscious or unconscious self-sabotage strategies very well.

  • We are left with no time, space or energy to sit in stillness long enough to look within and face all that is crying for attention.  Too often, the storms inside seem overwhelming and rather than Facing the Storms, we find ways to divert our attention.  If others try to call our attention to our inner discomfort (that may be more clearly visible to them) – we give them the ‘helpless’ excuse of busyness as well.
  • Busyness also encourages and reinforces the victim mentality and leaves us and others convinced that there is no choice in the matter, that there is just no breathing space possible right now.
  • Busyness helps us avoid transformational change. Most of us have an inherent discomfort with radical change.  Busyness keeps us from addressing the root cause of the situations in our life.  This in turn shuts the door to difficult choices that we may intuitively be sensing, but are reluctant to implement.  Unlike the hamster trapped in the same place, we may actually be preferring the consequent stagnation, as it appears comfortable in comparison to other outcomes.

The truth is that there is always an option.  The challenge is not really about limited time or resource management.  Its a matter of prioritization.  Knowing you need air to breathe, would you say there is no time to breathe?  That is an extreme example meant to prod you into examining whether your said values are your true values.  Your true values are reflected in your doing.  If you value health, family, artistic pursuits or spiritual evolution – you will make time for it.  You will find the tools, you will practice the techniques and you will not procrastinate under the shadow of ‘busyness’.  For example, a simple reminder I have been using for a long while is in my conscious response to others.  When they ask me “What are you up to these days?” or “What are you doing now?”, I deliberately reply: “I keep myself busy.”   The emphasis being on my choice to keep myself occupied, so if I ever start feeling frazzled or locked into “busyness”, its easy to remember that its by choice and I am always free to choose differently.  That itself stills any inner haste.

Busyness is a state of mind.  It is the belief that you are cut off from any other way of being.  When due recognition is given to the inner space – any action that arises out of it – will appear effortless and easy.  It does not mean that you will stop taking necessary actions or sit idle.

It will mean that you operate with energy, enthusiasm and inner peace.

Knowing that inner harmony results in outer balance.

That action need not be exhausting, accomplishment need not be difficult and busyness need not be a compulsion.

Instead of being as busy as a bee, wouldn’t you rather just be?

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‘You are here’ – mapping your way forward

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The seduction of words can blind us to the dangers of the spiritual path.  With profound wisdom being readily available at your fingertips, and every conversation with a ‘like-minded’ friend on the ‘same path’ as you – it easy to believe one has realized the truth.  In reality, not everyone is able to translate the knowledge into a knowing, the wisdom into an experience and the theory into practical application.

Love, joy, peace, compassion, forgiveness, etc… are naturally welcome and acceptable notions.   However, when we run into the ‘difficult neighbour’, the ‘dishonest employee’ or the ‘jealous colleague’ at work, are we able to respond with acceptance and kindness in the moment?  Are we able to smoothen relations with our parents and let go of hurts we have carried since childhood?  Are we able to root out the worthlessness that one may feel for not meeting the worldly criteria of success?  Is one able to offer the spouse/partner complete freedom and transparency?

More often than not, the ‘seeker’  is someone with old wounds.  Someone who has grappled with depression, abuse, life-threatening disease or some other emotional or physical challenge.  The beauty of the philosophical words can distract you and the wounds may remain unattended.  That does not make them go away.  If they are not faced and addressed directly, they will continue to influence us and now in more subtle ways.

We struggle to live the concepts that appeal to us intellectually.  And the greatest challenge is to be honest with your self as to where you are.  If you are not mindful, or listening deeply to your self, you can easily find yourself saying things like, “I have moved on.  It is what it is. He/she was just playing their role.” So on and so forth.  As long as the blinkers of self deception are in place, you will believe you are already where you aspire to be.

And this is the place where we get stuck.  We seek no real help, we already know all the answers and we pretend to have got it all.  The wounds fester in the recesses of the heart and mind.  Unacknowledged parts of you cry out for healing, but you may feel your enhanced knowledge is now sufficient.  Understanding the relevant spiritual concepts is not going to provide any real relief at this point – unless you fearlessly admit exactly where you are.

A physical challenge may make what I mean more clear.  Consider a physical allergy. Supposing you are allergic to peanuts.  Now I can tell you that most allergies have an emotional component to it.  By using energy healing tools like EFT, I have discovered and cleared scores of such allergies for many clients. Very often, the allergy can be traced back to a specific, emotionally charged event.  The person begins to associate the emotional stress with the peanuts – and we have an allergy.  Now at a purely physical level – there are a string of changes in the body that lead to the reaction.

If I am operating* from the pure knowing of physical reality alone – I need to avoid peanuts or keep handy some anti-allergy medication.  Because that is the nature of the reality I am operating from.  Now from an increased awareness, if I believe and accept that the emotional root is the real cause of the allergy – this awareness should allow me to eat the peanuts without a problem.

This is the tricky area.  I may know it intellectually, I may believe it and I would like to believe I can demonstrate it. But if this knowing has not become ingrained, what do you think will happen when I have that peanut?

Now what if I admit that I believe in this rationale, but am unable to operate with any confidence from that space?  That will lead me to either one of two sensible responses : a) avoid the peanuts, b) use the necessary tools (for example EFT) to clear whatever blocks theoretical knowing from translating into living belief – so that I no longer react to peanuts.

The point being – that if I do not acknowledge and accept where I am – I will not find my way forward – to where I would like to be.

I had an allergy to bananas for many years.  A potentially life-threatening one. I was convinced that I understood how emotions drive our physical responses and I can take care of this.  But after spending some months in trying to demonstrate my concepts, without success, I finally admitted to myself that I was not there yet …  The physical world was still very solid to me.  Though physics tells me its all space and spirituality tells me its all transient – here I was experiencing the reaction!  Once I could admit my reality, I allowed myself to use EFT and cleared the beliefs and emotional charge behind it.  No problems after that!

Aspirational states of evolution are wonderful navigators to be held lightly.  But  if the truth is that there is a gap between the theory and the living of it – admit it. There is no one to impress, no race to win and no accolades to receive.

It is your personal freedom that you seek.

And the truth of the moment is what will set you free.

*Read more about ‘Operational knowing’ in my book SOUL – Student of Universal Law.

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